Second Time Around: Remarriage, Pregnancy.. and How We Did It
For a good majority of adults in life, major changes take place at some point. From marriage to divorce and job changes to having children, an adults life is usually always changing. Those of the hardest changes comes with marriage, divorce, and children. Sometimes your intuition guides you when it comes to children, whether you are ready or not. Children born early in life and children born later in life. I have both of these. In my 30s, in a new marriage, and knowing my body was tired, I did not know how much longer I would be able to physically withstand the tolls a pregnancy would take on my body. (To all those women with more than four children, I salute you!) Pregnancy is hard. I felt like I breezed through it in my 20s, but in my 30s, that was a whole other experience. I had my first two children before I turned 25. Now later down the road in my 30s, I met the love of my life and my partner always. Coming into the marriage with no children of his own, I knew I was destined to provide him with a baby or two. He has the older two that were a part of me already, and is as loving as a father can be, but deep down I knew he would want at least one. To experience the baby stages, watch them grow and become their own versions of what we created together. I would not blame anyone for that and neither should anyone else. This is a deep desire held by most people, it is in a sense an instinct most of us possess (whether it be to provide or nurture). Our first baby together came quickly after we had gotten together. She is our destiny baby. She was born to draw our family closer, not just our intimate family circle, but close family as well as extended family. She was born with an immediate charm that took the family by storm. From the day she opened her big pretty brown eyes, to now getting pretty well anything she wants from anybody with her silent elegant charm. I truly believe she was born to take on the world. I believe all of my children were born with a gift and purpose, and each one has their own unique skill they will put in this world.
About a year after she was born though, I was still feeling the intuition that there would be one more. Knowing this, we had a lot of family discussions. I wanted my husband to have his boy, his junior. While loving family and friends advised somewhat against it at first, I knew what my intuition was telling me. I also knew that my time was coming to an end to be able to handle pregnancy and labor on a physical level. We didn't have a lot of money, we were still working toward personal goals, had three other children to look after, and had even lost the house that we had a few months before that. I agree it was not a prime time to add an addition to our family, but the intuition was too strong. Deep down I knew it was meant to be, and so did my husband. So we talked about it, talked it over with our two older children and came to a unanimous decision, we were going to go for it.
I knew it would be a boy from the beginning. I knew all my children's genders from the beginning. When my husband and I went for the sonogram for our first child together and they said it was a girl, I remember telling him I knew it was a girl, but I also see a boy. I remember people asking me in the beginning "what will you do if you have another girl?" or saying while laughing "It's going to be a girl!" I would politely smile and respond that I would love the child just the same... but it was a boy. When we went for the sonogram, the little one was being extra difficult. While hiding, and moving around ferociously, they couldn't get a clear picture. This baby was extra sensitive! Did not like any touches to the belly. I knew this baby was going to have a very sensitive personality. It took us two tries, but finally they got a clear picture of what we had been waiting for. The baby was doing great, developing well, and in 5 months my husband would have his junior. It was a boy! My husband has never doubted my intuition and this was solid proof that I really did have a gift, not just with my children, but that expanded out into my life.
I remember the day that little boy was born. After a patient overnight stay in the hospital, he came the next morning very early. We had all the kids there with us although they had long given up and went to sleep. They slept in the private kids room the whole time. They were so tired though, they had walked with me, sat with me, and tried their hardest to stay awake the whole night. Either way they were still there, and we approached it as a family. I remember my first words as soon as he was born, "we've been waiting for you" was all I could say. All I could think was... now we are complete.
About a year after she was born though, I was still feeling the intuition that there would be one more. Knowing this, we had a lot of family discussions. I wanted my husband to have his boy, his junior. While loving family and friends advised somewhat against it at first, I knew what my intuition was telling me. I also knew that my time was coming to an end to be able to handle pregnancy and labor on a physical level. We didn't have a lot of money, we were still working toward personal goals, had three other children to look after, and had even lost the house that we had a few months before that. I agree it was not a prime time to add an addition to our family, but the intuition was too strong. Deep down I knew it was meant to be, and so did my husband. So we talked about it, talked it over with our two older children and came to a unanimous decision, we were going to go for it.
I knew it would be a boy from the beginning. I knew all my children's genders from the beginning. When my husband and I went for the sonogram for our first child together and they said it was a girl, I remember telling him I knew it was a girl, but I also see a boy. I remember people asking me in the beginning "what will you do if you have another girl?" or saying while laughing "It's going to be a girl!" I would politely smile and respond that I would love the child just the same... but it was a boy. When we went for the sonogram, the little one was being extra difficult. While hiding, and moving around ferociously, they couldn't get a clear picture. This baby was extra sensitive! Did not like any touches to the belly. I knew this baby was going to have a very sensitive personality. It took us two tries, but finally they got a clear picture of what we had been waiting for. The baby was doing great, developing well, and in 5 months my husband would have his junior. It was a boy! My husband has never doubted my intuition and this was solid proof that I really did have a gift, not just with my children, but that expanded out into my life.
I remember the day that little boy was born. After a patient overnight stay in the hospital, he came the next morning very early. We had all the kids there with us although they had long given up and went to sleep. They slept in the private kids room the whole time. They were so tired though, they had walked with me, sat with me, and tried their hardest to stay awake the whole night. Either way they were still there, and we approached it as a family. I remember my first words as soon as he was born, "we've been waiting for you" was all I could say. All I could think was... now we are complete.
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